No favorites, just so much love

My adult children (24 and 22 years old) are far flung - Ellie (24) in Vienna and David (22) in Los Angeles (and thankfully safe during the fire, although friends impacted). They are both my favorites, and for many reasons:

* Ellie is expert at offering the kindest, gentlest advice without judgement and with no expectations around the outcome, except for you feeling loved and cared for. She plays this role in our family and with her friends, as well. She's learning how to ensure she isn't saturated with others' needs - she protects her sleep, her running time, and her journaling time, knowing those outlets provide her with self-care.

* David is an introvert and needs his personal recharging time, but is also a risk-taker. He's learned a new sport (surfing), made new friends, been on the dating apps, and what the heck, moved across the country, on his own! He's become a strong networker in his field. David's learned his professional skills through experiences, not college, and he's become in-demand and respected at his job by boldly and bravely taking on new projects and navigating the challenges they bring.

* Both of my kids travel with ease. They sensibly pack their just-right bags; have little hesitation in figuring out airports, new cities or traveling on public transportation; are will to take a side trip for a beautiful view or special experience; and use tech to make it easier (Google translate, all kinds of maps, finding those special spots on Instagram).

* They also love the outdoors. They know good clothing choices make it possible to spend time in allllll the weather, and oh, how they love to find a perfect waterfall, a lesser-known ski trail (through the trees, always!), a quieter beach, and enjoy the beauty of nature.  

It feels like a gift, to have these two amazing humans in my life. They are not perfect, but they bring me such joy, even as our little family of four stretches across 9 time zones. And as I re-read this list, I realize how their talents are my growth areas. So it's an extra gift, to be learning from them, not just watching them. And I promise you all, Ellie is not forgotten and they both remain my forever-favorites!